Where will my child be cared for?
Children can be cared for in their home, in hospital, or sometimes in a hospice. While many families choose to remain at home, sometimes this can be difficult and additional medical support is necessary. It is important to remember that you can always go to the hospital or hospice if you change your mind.
Often in the early stages of palliative care, children appear quite well and may have very few symptoms. They are likely to be at home, attending school and participating in family activities.
Most children express a wish to have fewer trips to hospital. As the child’s illness progresses and symptoms develop, more regular follow-ups with your care team will be needed. Depending on where your home is, this review may be via telephone, videoconference, home visits or hospital visits. At times, admission to hospital or a children’s hospice for assessment and management of difficult symptoms or for “short breaks” (respite care) may be needed.
As your child’s illness progresses
As your child’s illness progresses, it is important for the family to decide whether the final days will be spent at home, hospital or in a children’s hospice. Your child may have a definite opinion about where they wish to be cared for. Some families presume that their child will have to spend their last days in hospital, and for some this is preferred. However, with appropriate support, many families will prefer to have their child at home. While your child may have spent significant time at the children’s hospital located in a capital city, it is possible for your child to be cared for in the hospital closest to your home. In some states, a children’s hospice may be another option.
If you decide to stay at home, you will require support from your paediatrician, local doctor, nursing specialists at the hospital and/or community nurses. When needed, daily home visits by nurses can be arranged. The nurses are able to assist with managing pain and other symptoms, provide emotional support and assist you in caring for your child. Your care team may organise for medications and other supplies to be available in the home to assist ongoing care, and minimise the need to go to hospital if your child’s condition changes. Your care team will also look into what extra equipment you may need at home (e.g. bedding, mobility aides, and equipment to help with bathing).
You may find that your thoughts change between the idea of hospital and home care or a children’s hospice when available. This is understandable and you are able to change your mind during your child’s illness. There will be a bed available in hospital if at any time you feel hospital care is more appropriate. If your child is in hospital, where possible they will be nursed in a private room. This can be transformed into a bedroom by bringing in doonas, pillows, favourite toys, photos and other special items from home to make it feel more familiar to them.
Source: Queensland Government 2002, Palliative Care for Children with Cancer — a Guide for Parents, Royal Children’s Hospital, Brisbane.
Useful resources for Ongoing/Palliative Care
Here for you: Things you might like to discuss with the palliative care team about care at the end of life (QUT resource booklet 2)
Here for you… things you might like to discuss with the palliative care team (QUT resource)
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